Takada is a fully trained Family Therapist (Victorian Association
of Family Therapists, Clinical Member since 1990).
Communication/Trust Issues, Sexual Issues, Infidelity, Divorce,
Cross Cultural Relationships.
There is a lot of recent research that demonstrates what
is needed to create a successful marriage. The average couple waits
six years before seeking help for marital problems (and keep in mind,
half of all marriages that end in the USA do so in the first seven
years). This means the average couple lives with unhappiness for far
too long. In Dr. John Gottman's apartment lab at the University of
Washington, he studies how people interact with one another under everyday
circumstances. He has discovered that "bids for connection" happen
at a very high rate between partners. What is a bid for connection?
Bids can be verbal or non-verbal. They can be highly physical or come
totally from the intellect. They can be sexual or non-sexual. The key
is that a bid for connection is an attempt to create connection between
two people. Its function is to keep the relationship going forward
and in a positive direction. Bids are a fundamental element of emotional
connection. Try the brief quiz on Gottman's
books: The Divorce Remedy Michelle Weiner
Davis. After the Affair Janis Abrahams
Available for seminars - for
relationships and "Making Marriage Work/Keeping
seminars (developed by Michele Weiner Davis).
See also Pat Love's web site for books
on relationship and sexual issues.
Family Therapy - sessions involving the whole family for problem solving
and solution finding.
Parenting – sessions for parents, emphasizing the competency
of both parents and children and opportunities for new understandings,
communication and behaviors. Available for seminars on parenting.
Child and Adolescent Therapy – for
older children and adolescents with Behavioral/Emotional/Social Difficulties.
assessments provided. Recommended book: Nobody’s Perfect K.
Kirberger (for daughters).